I have seen too many people live their life from behind a computer or have been too scared to leave the refuge of their armchair. That is not going to be me.
To embrace your sexuality to its fullest means to embrace your humanity. Unfortunately, society has been placing parameters of judgment around our sexuality and many of us are bound by shame, embarrassment, and guilt.
I have created The Spicy Boudoir to help people overcome those feelings and I particularly want to help people living with a disability and those over 50 claim their sexuality.
My personal favourite is the EVA II by Dame (image below). When I first saw this design I was utterly enthralled. How very clever! Who would have thought that our 'love purse' could actually be a purse?! It's like finding a gold coin tucked in the corner, except this time it's a nice little vibrator that nestles in my sweet spot. Me likey! As does my partner.
We love the concept of sharing the good vibes and that we can enjoy this together. We use it during lovemaking and foreplay - it's a nice way to start, trust me.
Tips: It will take practise. The first time we tried it we felt very clumsy however with practice (go you good thing) the Eva II is now one of my preferred accessories.
My second tip: Too much of a good thing can go to waste. Pace yourself. Your body and senses will habituate over time so give yourself a break from using an accessory and play with what Nature gave you such as your fingers!
My next favourite product is lubrication. Now that I'm in my 50s and experience vaginal dryness, my arousal state is no longer what it used to be and lubes and massage oils have become my most valued and trusted friends.
These particular products are worthy of their own spotlight so I will talk about them in detail in an upcoming blog. In the meantime, you pretty much can't go wrong with any of the brands that we stock. My usual go-to is anything by Pjur for lubrication. I am currently trialling a natural product made by a company on the Gold Coast, so far I am loving it. It has four uses - lubrication, massage oil, bath oil and moisturiser - I love the versatility and value that it provides. Stay tuned on that one.
In the meantime, if you haven't read my blog about the first time I bought a vibrator check it out.
Here's to you stepping into the light that is your sensuality!